Love

For me, Love is the most important of all - spending time and being Present with those that I Love in my life.

I remember years ago when my life was so busy and I was always worrying or thinking about work or about relationships that weren't working out, or thinking about the past or worrying about what was out of my control.  And now, right NOW, I feel very relaxed, my mind is clear - I can be totally Present in the NOW.  It is so great to have a quiet mind - I feel that there is space - time to breathe.

I Love that I can enjoy time with My Man - enjoying time out, time at home, time together.  I loved celebrating My Man's birthday recently, it was so great being at a beautiful restaurant together, enjoying a long lunch - I am so happy that I have found Love.  To Love and Be Loved is the greatest gift - my greatest dream come true. 

And I Love spending time with my Mum and Dad.  I am blessed that they have always filled my life with Love.  Just the other day we were shopping and I was ordering lunch for Mum and Dad and I took a few moments to just look over at my Mum and I waved to my Mum - in that moment I just looked over and saw such beauty in my Mum - my Mum waved back - this was a moment of just feeling such Love for my Mum.  I captured this moment in my heart.  Since my Mum has been unwell I have been so conscious of just enjoying time with my Mum, telling my Mum how much I love her and telling my Mum she is beautiful.

And today was a wonderful day - time with the Family, enjoying my Niece's dancing concert.  I Love my Nieces - they bring such Joy and Love into my life.  It was great to just enjoy the day, without thinking about anything else, just being totally Present and also feeling the warmth of Love from being with my Family and my Nieces.   I especially loved seeing my Niece Ashley up on stage smiling and dancing and having a great time - what a great feeling to feel such Love in my heart as I watched Ashley performing her ballet and jazz.  And I Love the hugs from my Nieces and I loved when my Niece Olivia sat on my lap and relaxed into me, so comfortable, so relaxed, moments filled with Love.  Here are some of my favourite photos from today.

 

I Love taking photos and I also Love just capturing moments in my mind's eye.  Today I was sitting next to my Mum and my Niece Olivia who had been sitting on my lap most of the day came over and climbed onto my Mum's lap, her Nana - and it was a beautiful moment, Olivia cuddled into my Mum and I just enjoyed feeling this moment of Love.

For a long time I was searching for My True Love and during this search I was so Grateful to be surrounded in the Love of my Family.  And now I have so much Love in my life - so much Love that I Value above all else - this is Life's Greatest Treasure for me.

I remember at College we enjoyed a Meditation about our Purpose - it was a Meditation based on when your Soul is about to become human form, at the time of conception - and we were asked the question - what will be your Purpose in this lifetime?  The word that came up for me was... Love - so simple - so true for me.  

And with Love as the main Priority in my life, this guides me in my Life Design.  I now choose a job and a career that allows me to enjoy work-life Balance with plenty of time dedicated to the key relationships in my life.  I also ensure that I have time for Self, enjoying one of my favourite books, relaxing in the bath, a walk out in Nature - Self-Love.

My Commitment is to Love - Love of Self, Love of My Man, Love of My Family and Friends, Love of ALL - LOVE.

I Love Coaching

Tonight I met with one of my Coaching Clients.  I Love Coaching.  I LOVE COACHING. 

I have been at work all day, working my Monday to Wednesday job, my job outside of Coaching.  I enjoy talking to the Customers and I especially enjoy Connection and Conversations with Friends at work - and I am Grateful for my job - and the work is interesting - yet this is not my Lifework.

Once I get to my Coaching Space, I feel comfortable and Peaceful and Happy.  I enjoy setting up my room.  I feel at Home in my room.  I sometimes wish I had a room at my Home and yet I am Grateful to be part of a Community of Healers and definitely feel in the right place and Space.  

I love my Butterfly Scarf which reminds me of the Journey of Life and the Coaching Opportunity to support Client's on their Journey.  I also love lighting my candles - with the Light of my candles I feel ready - I also feel that the candles invite Spirit into my Sacred Space.  On the table I have a tealight candle holder in the shape of a rock with the word 'Love'.  I love this candle as it also reminds me of the emphasis of my work - I love to work with my Coaching Clients for love of life and love of self.  For me it all comes down to LOVE - it is this simple.  I also love lighting my Yellow candle that is in the lotus flower candle holder - I love the symbol of the Lotus - the beautiful flower emerging from the mud.

I am Grateful for my Coaching Clients.  I am Honoured that Clients share their Journey with me.  I am Honoured to share this Space.  Holding and offering a Sacred Space is of upmost importance to me.  I am  SO Grateful for the Clients that I have welcomed into my Space, VERY Grateful that they have chosen me to be their Coach.

I feel very relaxed and natural sitting in the seat of the Coach.  It is true that you can never possibly know what a Client will bring as an Agenda for the Coaching Session - and I am  SO Grateful that I have been trained to Trust the Magic and the Mystery of the Process.  I am also Grateful that I have been trained in Counselling skills as I feel that this helps me offer the best support for my Clients.

Have I mentioned today that - I Love Coaching.

I look back over some of my notes that I emailed my very first Client from when I started my Business in May.  I feel Inspired when I read my Vision for my Coaching and my Values and Beliefs in relation to my Coaching, which Shine through when I read about Client Benefits, the Transformational Coaching Process and Shine Coaching - About Me.

Client Benefits
S - Self-Awareness, Self-Confidence, Self-Reliance, Self-Care, Success of Goals and Celebration of Wins
H - Happiness and Joy and a Sense of Gratitude
I - Inspiration - Feeling Energised and a sense of Purpose and Meaning
N - New Awareness and a Feeling of Newness, Hope and Excitement, A New Beginning, A New day
E - Empowered - Sense of working with what is within one’s own control and using one’s power to make positive choices

Transformational Coaching Process
S - Based on the Client’s Specific Agenda and Goals – with an opportunity for Self-Reflection and a focus on a Client’s Strengths and Resources
H - Holistic Coaching is about bringing about Balance and Authenticity in all Areas of Life, as well as attention to Physical, Mental, Emotional and Spiritual Aspects 
I - Intuition - Coaching is not about giving advice or direction, the Process involves assisting a Client to access their own answers and Insights
N - Next Steps – Each Session offers the opportunity to identify and commit to action steps for forward movement, with a space for people to be accountable to themselves
E -  Experiential – The Coaching Process allows space for sharing, and there are invitations for different exercises, questions, meditations and visualisations to assist a Client

SHINE Coaching – ABOUT ME
•    SHINE: Excitement, brightness, glowing, brilliance, excellence, eyes lighting up, a feeling of basking in sunlight, reflecting light to others
•    As a Coach it is a Honour to work with people – As a Coach I see the light in people, their uniqueness, their greatness - so that they may SHINE
•    I have been working with people for the last 5 years in Training, Motivation and Performance Management and now with training in Counselling and Coaching, I have recently started my own Coaching Business where I am very passionate about working with people in the local community
•    The Coaching Process involves shining a light on areas in life that are both working and not working, shining a light on the Vision for the future and bringing obstacles into the light to help bring about change
•    My belief is that each day is a new day, that we are not defined or restricted by our past, but that with the rising of the sun there is the opportunity to begin again or take new steps towards our desired destination
•    My desire is that the Process of Coaching can help more people LOVE SELF and LOVE LIFE

I am Excited that I am living an Authentic life and most Excited that I have my own Coaching Business.  This is a dream come true.  For years and years and years I struggled with being in the wrong job and feeling very stressed trying to fit into jobs that were not right for me.  For years and years and years I was searching for my Lifework - although I have always known that I wanted to work with people.  When I was in my early twenties I started talking about studying Psychology and about 10 years ago I first heard about the role of a Life Coach and I knew this was the role for me.  And now I am finally living my dream.

I feel that I have a deep empathy for others due to my own life experience.  I especially know the feelings of doubt and being lost and lonely and sad and anxious and depressed and experiencing a lack of purpose.  I now know the feelings of peace, truth, love, a deep inner joy and happiness and a sense of Self-Love and a strong sense of Purpose.

I have a strong sense of my Life Purpose to Spread The Yellow and I love that I can offer a Space for Connection and Service to my Clients.  I Love Coaching.  Each and every day, in the Coaching Space and outside Coaching, I am on a Mission to Spread The Yellow.

Dear God, Please allow me to be of Service for the Greater Good.  I Trust in you.  I am ready to be of Service to more Clients.  Please help me live my Vision.  I appreciate my Gifts and my Uniqueness.  I am Blessed.  I am Grateful.  Amen - Oh and also God - MOST IMPORTANTLY Please look after my Dad and Mum - please keep them safe and strong and in good health.  Amen.

My Yellow Heart

I am blessed that I now have such a strong sense of my Soul's Home - My Yellow Heart.  

For me the image of my Yellow Heart is my Touchstone to the way of being where I am totally Present.  In this place I am Love, I am Light, I am Acceptance, I am Warmth.  In this place I am Relaxed, I am at Peace.  In this place I can hear the whispers of my Soul, my Yellow Heart is the home of my Soul.  

In this place I have Connection with my Wise Self - a Part of me that guides me on my Soul path.  Today I enjoyed a Meditation listening to my new CD 'Pure Sounds Gyuto Monks of Tibet' (which is wonderful) and I felt my Self sitting in my Soul's Home of My Yellow Heart and being in Communication with my Wise Self (who was sitting opposite me).  This was a wonderful experience.  This is my image of my Wise Self.

As I sit in my Soul's Home of My Yellow Heart in my Meditation I also have a sense and the image of my Guardian Angel holding my right hand.  My Guardian Angel whispers "I am here, you are not alone."  My Guardian Image is beautiful - her dress is made of crystal and gold.  This is a beautiful experience.  I also have a sense of another Angel holding my left hair - she is dressed in purple.  My Angels explain that they are here to help guide me, and that by allowing this Space in my life, I can be in touch with my Intuition.

As I am in Meditation I feel my Self sitting in my Soul's Home and I feel so Peaceful - I want to stay in this place, I want to stay in this place forever.  And then came the realisation that I can stay in this place - I can always sit in My Yellow Heart and be Love and Light and Peace and Acceptance.  In my Soul's Home I feel that I am sitting in a circle, my Guardian Angel to my right, another Angel to my left and my Wise Self opposite me - and there are Others from the Universe also Present to support me.  In my day to day, I can take this Awareness with me, feeling the Love and Light of the Universe.

Recently in a Coaching Session I discovered my Soul's Home is this place of being "Present and Warm to What Is".  By Consciously choosing to be in my Soul's Home I feel more at Peace.  At work I am just being  "Present and Warm to What Is", and so rather than overthinking about my Monday-Wednesday, I am able to be Present and focus on my work.  In this way, I am not wasting energy thinking about anything other than being at work - and as I focus on my work I am able to exceed my Targets and I feel a sense of Achievement.  In my relationship with my Man, I am also practicing being Present.  And in this place I can express my truth and all of my feelings. 

When I am with my Clients I feel myself in My Yellow Heart, listening with my Heart, totally Present.  In My Yellow Heart I sit in Honour of my Clients, in Honour of their Courage.  I am Honoured that they are sharing their Journey with me.  In My Yellow Heart I am Love, I am Light, I am Acceptance, I am "Present and Warm to What Is", I am Peace.  As I sit in My Yellow Heart I hold a Sacred Space for others.  In my Yellow Heart I allow Space.  Space for me offers the opportunity to Pause.  Rather than rushing in and speaking, I allow Attentive Silence for my Clients.  I also allow the Space for my Intuition, to hear Spirit.  And then I can respond to my Clients. 

Space in my own life allows me to gain insights for my own life.  Having Space is very important to me.  Space allows me to tune into my sense of achieving Balance within my Self and my Life. 

When I am Home in My Yellow Heart, I have a strong sense of Self-Love and Confidence.  I remember who I am, my Soul Journey and my Soul Purpose.  I am True to me.  And as I move into the Future and looking at my Ideal Scene in 5 years I want to be having this same internal experience - where I can be in the daily living of being in My Yellow Heart, my Soul's Home, the Light, Love and Peace within me - that is me.  When I am Home in My Yellow Heart I allow the Space to be in Connection with Spirit.  I have a knowing that I can draw on all of the Strengths and Resources within me, including my Wise Self and other Archetypes. By being "Present and Warm to What Is" I feel that I can always carry this with me - no matter where my Life leads I can be in My Yellow Heart.

From My Yellow Heart I can Spread The Yellow.  From a Natural, Heart-Felt, Genuine, Place of Love, I can Share, Moment to Moment, my Love, Warmth, Connection, Presence, Genuine Interest and Curiosity, My Interest In What You Have To Say, My Interest In Your Journey, My Care.  I can Communicate  I SEE YOU, YOU MAKE A DIFFERENCE TO ME.  I can Share JOY, Happiness, Positivity, Energy, Excitement, Enthusiasm, Eye Contact, Just Being With Another, A Smile, A Moment, A Kind Word, Words From My Heart, A Hug, An Encouragement, An Acknowledgement, Gratitude, Appreciation, Gift Of Words, Gift Of Thoughtfulness, AWARENESS, Opportunities, Possibilities, the Right To Choice, the Right To Choose, An Offering, An Invitation.  From My Yellow Heart I can Make A Difference, I can Make This Moment Count!!!

I have a sense of a Butterfly landing in my Soul's Home, an image of Transformation.  The Butterfly gently reminds me that Life is a Journey and that change is a part of Life.  The Butterfly reminds me to Honour the Journey of Others.  The Butterfly reminds me to Honour my own Journey.

For me my Business Card helps highlight my way of Being and Doing that feels right for me.  My Yellow Heart is at the Centre and this Inspires Emotion and Action through my Yin and Yang, the Parts of me that act from a place of Love.  There is Balance, there is Space, there is Light.  And as I Honour My Yellow Heart, I will SHINE.

I feel so Grateful to recognise the Yellow in my own Life.  As I sit within My Yellow Heart I can be real with every emotion and I can also have an Attitude of Gratitude.  I am very Grateful to my Man who surprised me yesterday with a beautiful card and words and a thoughtful present, that is very me.  My Man is continually bringing Yellow to my life, always buying me Yellow flowers and recently he bought me a Yellow shower curtain.  I am so happy that I see my Man in my Future, he is in my Ideal Life.  I am blessed to be so Loved by my Man and feel such Love for him.  And in My Yellow Heart I have Love and Care for my Self.

Everything Is Possible

The main reason I love writing my Blog, THE reason I write my Blog, is that it offers the opportunity for Self-Reflection of my me, my day, my Journey.  Self-Reflection is important to me.

The last couple of days I have begun opening up to receiving the messages of my Dreams.  I have also became very interested in Dreamwork - I like what I read on Wikipedia - "Dreamworking differs from classical dream interpretation in that the aim of Dreamwork is to explore the various images and emotions that a Dream presents and evokes, while not attempting to come up with a single, unique dream meaning. In this way the Dream remains 'alive' whereas if it has been assigned a specific meaning, it is 'finished' (i.e., over and done with). Dreamworkers take the position that a Dream may have a variety of meanings, depending on the levels (e.g. subjective, objective) that are being explored.  A tenet of Dreamwork is that each person has his or her own Dream 'language'.  Any given place, person, object or symbol can differ in its meaning from Dreamer to Dreamer and also from time to time in the Dreamer's ongoing life situation. Thus someone helping a dreamer get closer to her or his Dream through Dreamwork adopts an attitude of 'not knowing' as far as possible."

I like the idea of keeping the Dream "alive".  At 10.40pm last night, I had another insight regarding my dream from two nights ago - I remember that my ex-lover never saw me as the one for him, that he was on the look out for someone else - and I have a sense that this could be the part of me that is looking outside myself for answers, or wanting me to be different rather than fully loving and engaging with myself.  Perhaps this is the message from my Soul that it is time for My Self to love me, choose me.  

When I wake up this morning I have a recall of another dream from last night.  I remember riding a bike, a shiny new green pushbike.  

In the dream I remember having a brief moment where I am loving riding my new bike.  And then I remember getting to the railway station and I am rushed and I am racing to get a ticket so I do not miss the train.  And the train is waiting for me and I rush and buy a ticket and then I am asking them to wait for me and then I jump on the train.  Once on the train, for a moment I feel relieved... and then I look out the window and realise that I have left my new, shiny green bike on the station and I just left it there - I know it will not be the same or still be there when I get back.  I am disappointed, sad.  I feel helpless that I am now on the train.  As I write these words, I realise that I was sad as I cannot go back to that moment.

This Dream is "alive" for me.  This is not about me rushing to get somewhere or missing a train.  For me this dream speaks to me about enjoying the now, enjoying the new parts of me, enjoying that I am a new Coach, enjoying this Journey, riding my new bike, not trying to get there sooner by jumping on a fast train - perhaps this is one way to look at this Dream.  There is the feeling that the shiny, new, green park is one of my Sub-Personalities and that I should not just disregard or discard or reject this part of me.  As I write these words, I have a remembering that yes I am a New Coach, and yet I am trained and I have so much to give my Clients.  I just have to be myself, what comes naturally to myself, I just have to be me.  My Clients who come to me have been sent to me by the Universe, by God - the all knowing - yes, I am a New Coach and yet I am here to love and serve and Spread The Yellow to my Clients.

I have been enjoying bringing my Yin Feminine and Yang Masculine into Union, into their Power.  My Yin and my Yang are my Strengths and Resources.  By being in touch with all Parts of me, I feel that anything and Everything Is Possible.  I feel very Inspired to help my Clients gain an Awareness of their own Yin and Yang, and develop all Parts of Self to help them bring their dreams into ACTION.  In my heart I believe Everything Is Possible - and my greatest wish is that the Coaching Process can help my Clients gain a sense of this truth.

I have been reading a lot about Self-Esteem and Self-Love.  I love this book 'The Everything Self-Esteem Book' by Robert M. Sherfield.  The Process of getting in touch with my Yin and Yang has helped me experience a wonderful feeling of Self-Love.  I love this image - almost like my Yin and Yang coming together.

   

I love these quotes 

- “Love yourself first and everything falls into line.” Lucille Ball quotes (American radio and motion-picture actress and comedy star, 1911-1989)  

- “To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” Oscar Wilde quotes (Irish Poet, Novelist, Dramatist and Critic, 1854-1900)

I now feel that this is such a HUGE area where I would like to work with my Clients - helping them Love Self and Love Life.  From a place of Self-Love, I have a sense that Everything Is Possible!!  I have a KNOWING.

I LOVE THESE WORDS (that I find on a beautiful Blog) -

http://www.abundancetapestry.com/how-to-love-yourself-in-17-ways/

“I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it — I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.

Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know — but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me.

However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me. 

I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.”

Denis 2005 Virginia Satir quotes (American Psychologist and Educator, 1916-1988)

From this place of Self-Love, I see the beauty in me, and I see the beauty in the world.  I feel I am in Connection to all things - I am all things - I am the birds singing, I am the leaves blowing in the breeze, I am the beautiful, fragrant, precious red rose.  I am the beautiful flower in our garden. 

I also love the words from this Blog -
http://www.abundancetapestry.com/how-to-love-yourself-in-17-ways/

- "Fall in love with yourself. Think about what makes you You. Just like a flower that needs watering to grow, learn to nurture yourself in every way. Love yourself for all the good that you see and accept your flaws and the fact that you are imperfect. This does not mean that you do not learn to change from your shortcomings; instead, you are being gentle and kind to yourself despite all your “flaws”. Look in the mirror and fall in love with the reflection that is You."

Yin-Yang Now and Future

I feel love.  I feel loved.  Lying in bed this morning I put on my Meditation music and allow images to float into my mind's eye.  I have a sense of my Yin and my Yang walking together hand in hand - these two parts of me loving and supporting each other, loving and supporting me.

I wonder what is different about me now - now that I am Consciously being a Witness to my Yin and Yang.  I definitely have an Awareness of an internal dialogue, relationship, Union, love between my Yin Feminine and Yang Masculine parts of me.  Their coming together has made me feel whole, complete within, I am more Confident and I have a greater sense of Value of myself.

I feel that my Yin and Yang are now equal partners in a loving relationship.  This has been an incredible and worthwhile and life changing Journey and opportunity.  When I started this Journey they were just children, playing together, getting to know each other - similar to the friendship in "My Girl" and definitely making me remember back to when I was just a child with my child bestfriend.

In this childhood phase, this is when I first felt the Creative Tension between my Yin and Yang - where there was time to play with this new way of being - feeling into my Intuition and then my Yang following the lead of my Yin.

And then I had a feeling of my Yin and Yang in a teenage relationship, where my Yin had a crush on her Yang (especially as my Yin was really starting to like her Yang) - and then they enjoyed a first kiss, their first love - they were highschool sweethearts - like in the movie "Sixteen Candles".  I also looked back on a photo of me when I was a teenager and I remember when I was going out to a school disco, all dressed up, hoping to meet a boy (I have always been a Romantic and in search of love).

During this teenager phase in my process of getting to know my Yin and Yang, I felt that it was just a teenage crush and my Yin and Yang were still just getting to know each other.  And then came my Commitment to true love, with me having a desire to strengthen this relationship of Yin and Yang.

I feel my Yin and Yang in partnership now - noone is in charge, they work together.   My Yang does sit patiently and wait for his Beloved Yin, and he still lets her know he is there, eager for ACTION.  As my Preference is Yin, I have in the past abandoned my Yang - and yet now, I am so fortunate to discover my Yang Strengths, Abilities, Capabilities and Capacities. 

When I was sitting at the Doctor's Clinic waiting for my Appointment yesterday to present my Coaching Business, I did not feel nervous, or alone - I felt like I was being supported from my Yin and Yang.  Even as I write this paragraph, this is HUGE for me, as even though I have enjoyed time on my own and I enjoy my  own company, there have often been times when I have felt alone and that I needed someone to be beside me, keep me company, support me, to sit with me at home on the lounge or be beside me if I was going to an appointment.  Now I have found myself. 

I have loved listening to so many love songs over the last 7 weeks and revisiting them in the last couple of days.  Shania Twain's song "From This Moment On" was my wedding song, the song I danced with my ex-husband - now I feel such Self-Love when I hear these words - like I am singing these words to myself.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a-Lp2uC_1lg&feature=related 

I also love the words and this clip of "I Won't Leave You Lonely" - I love the images on the clip, Shania Twain is so beautiful and a Goddess - and when I listen to the music I once again feel myself singing these words to myself -

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kSB5uXJC_6E 

I am so fortunate to be loved unconditionally by my Man and my Family and I love to be showered in love and hugs by my Nieces, and yet now I have such a sense of Self-Love, that no matter what happens in my life, I have myself.  I have a sense of inner Strengths and Resources within my Yin and Yang parts of me that can support and help me as lifeskills - and I have a sense of my Yin loving her Yang man and my Yang totally there for my Yin (with encouraging love and self-talk), my Yang singing me this song -

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kJyJwbAa1i8

I just love this clip from "Shall We Dance" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bibtqDxXv1o - it gives me a real visual and sense of the power of Yin and Yang coming together.

I look back over the last decade in my life to get a sense of what was happening for me - this is interesting:

- 2000 - Unhappy, lost, stressed, lonely - cover up and try to hold it together with a mask - then I find joy in running - and I search for a partner

- 2002 - Get married, marry a nice man, the wrong man - thinking that I will be happy

- 2003 - Lonely, lose my sense of self, I don't recognise the signs and I have a sense that I have no options and I fall into a deep, dark, depression, I do not value myself or my life

- 2005 - Start a new job, find confidence, feel fulfilled - my job in Training and Motivation of Teams brings out the best in me - both my Yin and Yang were working well together

- 2005-2009 - A series of unhealthy relationships - always in search of true love 

- 2008 - With a change in the Company I move to a new Company - I thought I was happy - and yet the best part of the job was that it allowed flexibility for my Study

- 2009 - Meet my Man - experience unconditional love

- February 2010 - I am made redundant from my Job - the Universe clearly has other plans for me - in looking back my job was very Yang and I would often go into my Shadows of Overthinker, Stressed, Loner, Seeker of Positive Reinforcement - it did not bring out my best

- March 2010 - After being made redundant I loved being in my Yin, abandoned my business corporate part of me - just loved being with Nature, in my Imagination, drawing, creating, freedom, space for spontaneity

- APRIL-MAY 2010 - I REDISCOVER MY YIN AND YANG - I DISCOVER MYSELF - I EXPERIENCE SELF-LOVE - May it be the start of a long and forever Journey of Unconditional Self-Love.

So now I have this new Awareness and this strong Union of my Yin and Yang - Where to now?

I refer back to my College notes on Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.  I feel that in understanding my Yin and Yang and my way forward - this is an important part of the puzzle, explaining "what energises, directs and sustains human behaviour." http://www.edpsycinteractive.org/topics/regsys/maslow.html

In terms of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs http://www.businessballs.com/maslow.htm "Each of us is motivated by needs. Our most basic needs are inborn, having evolved over tens of thousands of years. Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs helps to explain how these needs motivate us all.  Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs states that we must satisfy each need in turn, starting with the first, which deals with the most obvious needs for survival itself.  Only when the lower order needs of physical and emotional well-being are satisfied are we concerned with the higher order needs of influence and personal development. Conversely, if the things that satisfy our lower order needs are swept away, we are no longer concerned about the maintenance of our higher order needs."

I feel that my Needs on 6 of these Levels are being met, and yet it is interesting that when I have had a sense of a possible deficiency, this caused me to act or react, with my fear and Shadow parts of myself coming on stage.  Last week when I was confused about no longer continuing with the booking of a permanent space, I had some fears around finances and I was also feeling a sense of separation - and I went into Overthinker, Overwhelm and Loner Shadows.  And yet by then being intouch with my Yin, I was able to get my Yang to act for me - the events of the week gave me the opportunity to be honest and true and make some adjustments to make this work for me.  I also now have a sense of Connection and Belonging at the Bookstore - and I am Excited that I was able to bring my Creativity of my Yin and Focus of my Yang to put together an advertisement that will be placed in the Bookstore's Newsletter.  And I am also Excited by the opportunity to work with Clients at my friend's Physiotherapy.  I am also happy that through the Creative process and being in touch with my Yin, I was able to realise that it is not about the rooms - of most importance is the Connection and Power in the Coaching Relationship and that I can bring my light to any space.

I am pleased that some fears and Shadow parts of me did surface - as it allowed me the opportunity for Self-Development, learning from a potential mistake.  Of most importance for me is continuing to be an Observer to myself.  I have a Commitment to build the Strengths and love of my Yin and Yang and to practice these positive new habits of these parts working together rather than discarding each other.  I am happy that my Blog helps me to Reflect daily on my Wins, my Challenges and my opportunities for Growth - and even allows an Honesty and Authenticity where I can be a Witness to my fears and notice my Shadows  when they come to the surface.  I also realise the importance of not always rushing in and making Decisions - I am bringing in a Check In, a question to ask myself before I make a Final Decision - "Are you sure?  Take  the time to Check In" - and really taking the time to Check In with both Yin and Yang and making sure that my Decision is not based on fear or the acting out of the Shadow parts of me. 

I am happy that I have recently put my Values on a piece of Art paper that I have placed on the wall for me to see when I wake up in the morning.  These help me in setting my Intentions and getting my Yin and Yang to work together to help me live a life based on my Values.  I am finding that my Yin and Yang are working together with my Health Goals, where I am cooking more healthy and vegetarian meals which has been a Goal for a long time.  I am also getting my Yang to help me be more Ordered at home, and less cluttered.  I am also currently getting Yin and Yang together to help me with my Goal of starting Yoga which I have been talking about for 1 year.  My Yang has been collecting timetables and researching classes and my Yin felt into the Studio that feels right and when being in the flow, I was able to meet a Yoga Teacher and ask her about my back.  I have now found a class that will suit me - and I have made a Commitment, a Promise to myself that I will go to the class this week.

One of the questions being asked by my Teacher in relation to the Yin-Yang Project is "How are you affecting your 'mastery of being' and self-actualization within this creative process?"  I decide to look at where I am at with all of the eight levels of the Hierarchy of Needs, where I am at - and I find a great Self Test 

http://www.businessballs.com/maslowtest.pdf 

- Biological Needs - "Aside from dieting and personal choice, I never starve through lack of food, nor lack of money to buy food.  Aside from the usual trauma of moving house, I have no worry about having somewhere to live - I have a room over my head'." YES

- Safety Needs - "I generally feel safe and secure - job, home, etc - and protected from harm.  My life generally has routine and structure - long periods of uncontrollable chaos are rare or non-existent." - YES - this is true for me - and this is why I made the choice of getting a part-time job so that from a place of security, and without stress or desperation I could build my Coaching Business

- Belongingness and Love Needs - "I am part of, and loved by, my family.  I have good relationships with my friends and colleagues - they accept me for who I am." - YES - this is true for me

- Esteem Needs - "I am successful in life and/ or work, and I'm recognised by my peers for being so.  I'm satisfied with the responsibility and role that I have in my life and/ or work, my status and reputation, and my level of self-esteem." - DEFINITELY YES - experiencing the falling of love of my Yin and Yang has allowed me to experience high self-esteem and Self-Love

- Cognitive Needs - "Improving my self-awareness is one of my top priorities.  The pursuit of knowledge and meaning of things, other than is necessary for my work, is extremely important to me." - YES - this has always been important to me

- Aesthetic Needs - "Above mostly everything else, I actively seek beauty, form and balance in things around me.  My interest in beautiful culture and the arts is central to me" - Hmm - Yes - although I am not very materialistic, I definitely love the beauty in the world, the beauty in Nature and I do love art and colour

And now for the top two areas that are explained as:

- Self-Actualisation Needs - "My aim is self-knowledge and enlightenment.  The most important thing to me is realising my ultimate personal potential.  I seek and welcome 'peak' experiences."

- Transcendence Needs - "The most important thing to me is helping others to reach their ultimate potential, whatever that may be, even at my expense."

I definitely have a sense of experiencing and being driven by these two Needs and I am definitely Inspired to develop further so as to fulfil these Needs - to continue to Consciously work with my Yin and Yang and the Creative Tension between them.  I am Excited that I find a great link - a Self Test  about Self-Actualisation - this one involves Scaling, which I really like, it helps me see where I am at, and create a Vision for where I would like to be - http://www.selfcounseling.com/help/personalsuccess/selfactualization.html

Here is the Test and my responses (I choose a rating based on how I am feeling today, being so in touch with my Yin-Yang Journey) -

"Listed below are a series of 16 characteristics of a self-actualising individual as described by Abraham Maslow. Self-actualising here is defined as a person who is in the process of fulfilling their potential. After slowly and thoroughly reading each characteristic, rate yourself on the scale listed below that characteristic from 1 to 10. Your results will give you both a linear and intuitive representation of your strength and weaknesses in moving towards being a self-actualising person. Spend some time focusing on why you are stronger in some characteristics than others. What is it that has given you a higher score? What might you do to make your score higher on any given characteristic. The highest total you can receive is 160 points. How close are you?"
"1. The self-actualised person has more efficient perception of reality and more comfortable relations with it. They can accept the good and the bad, the highs and the lows, and he can tell the difference.
      1   2   3   4   5   6   7   8   9   10     (6)

2. Acceptance of self, others, and nature. The self-actualising person sees reality as it is and accepts responsibility for it. They are as objective as a subjective being can be in their perceptions.
      1   2   3   4   5   6   7   8   9   10     (7)

3. The self-actualising person has spontaneity, simplicity and naturalness. In other words, this kind of person is not hung up on being as others think he should be. They are a person who is capable of doing what feels good and natural for themself simply because that’s how they feels. They do not try to hurt others, but they have respect for what is good for themself.
      1   2   3   4   5   6   7   8   9   10     (7)

4. Problem Centring. The self-actualising person is someone who is generally strongly focused on problems outside of themself. They are concerned with the problems of others and the problems of society, and are willing to work to try to alleviate those difficulties.
      1   2   3   4   5   6   7   8   9   10     (7)

5. The quality for detachment, the need for privacy. For all their social mindedness, the self-actualising person has a need to be by themself or a need for solitude. They enjoys times for quiet reflection and don’t always need people around them. They can be with the few people that they would be close to and not need to communicate with them. Their presence is sufficient in and of itself.
      1   2   3   4   5   6   7   8   9   10     (8)

6. Autonomy, independence of culture and environment. The self-actualising person is capable of doing things for themself and making decisions on their own. They believe in who and what they are.

      1   2   3   4   5   6   7   8   9   10     (7)

7. Continued freshness or appreciation. The self-actualising person experiences a joy in the simple and the natural. Sunsets are always beautiful and they seek them out. They can still enjoy playing the games they played as a child and having fun in some of the same ways they did many years before.
      1   2   3   4   5   6   7   8   9   10     (10)

8. The mystic experience, the peak experience. Self-actualising people usually have experiences in which they literally feel they are floating. They feel very much in tune or at one with the world around them, and almost feel as if they are, for a momentary period in time, part of a different reality.
      1   2   3   4   5   6   7   8   9   10     (8)

9. A feeling of togetherness. Self-actualising people have a feeling for all of mankind. They are aware and sensitive to the people that are about them.
      1   2   3   4   5   6   7   8   9   10     (9)

10. Interpersonal relations. Self-actualising people have deeper and more profound interpersonal relations than other adults. They are capable of fusion, greater love and more perfect identification that other people could consider possible. They generally tend to have relatively few friends, but those relationships are deep and very meaningful.
      1   2   3   4   5   6   7   8   9   10     (7)

11. The democratic character structures. Self-actualising people tend to believe in the equal nature of human beings, that every individual has a right to their say, and that each person has his strengths and each person has his weaknesses.
      1   2   3   4   5   6   7   8   9   10     (8)

12. Discriminating between means and ends, between good and evil. Self-actualisng people know the difference between means and ends and good and evil and do not twist them in a way that hurt themselves or others.
      1   2   3   4   5   6   7   8   9   10     (9)

13. Philosophical and unhostile sense of humor. Self-actualising people tend to enjoy humor. They like to laugh and like to joke, but not at the expense of others. They are generally seen as good natured, even though they are capable of being very serious.
      1   2   3   4   5   6   7   8   9   10     (8)

14. Creativeness. Self-actualising people are capable of being highly creative. Creativeness can be expressed in many dimensions by writing, speaking, playing, fantasies, or whatever, but self-actualising does have moods of being creative. Maslow has said that a first-rate cook is better than a second-rate painter. Hence, creativeness can be expresses in many dimensions.
      1   2   3   4   5   6   7   8   9   10     (8)

15. Resistance to inculturation, the transcendence of any particular culture. Maslow feels that the individual is above their culture in some way, that they maintain a strong individuality and are not so absorbed that they cannot evaluate the culture objectively in such a way that they can make decisions about what is best for them and those they care about.
      1   2   3   4   5   6   7   8   9   10     (8)

16. The imperfections of self-actualising people. Self-actualising people are individuals who are aware of the fact that they are not perfect, that they are as human as the next person, and that there are constantly new things to learn and new ways to grow. The self-actualizing person, although comfortable with themself, never stops striving.
      1   2   3   4   5   6   7   8   9   10     (10)

      TOTAL SCORE 127 out of 160.

I feel happy that I am on the right track and that I can Consciously make Choices to become more self-actualised.  Of most important to me is that I continue my Journey of Self Awareness, to live my potential.  I am still learning and I am still on a Journey of Discovery - that's what makes life so wonderful.  It is also of great importance to me that I help others. It is from a place of Strength and Compassion and Authenticity and Self-Love that I believe I can best serve others in my Mission to Spread The Yellow.

My Coaching Business is so new and I feel that there is much to be done and yet I feel confident that with the support and love of my Yin and Yang parts of myself that I can become successful.  My main Vision is to be working with 5-7 Clients every week by September.  Rather than just doing a Marketing Plan, and being all in my Yang and having everything Planned - I am very much relying on the flow - and opening up to my Intuitive Yin and using my Yang to go into ACTION.  My Yin is very appreciative of my Yang's business skills and ability to plan and complete 'to do lists', Yang is my feet on the ground.  While Yang is allowing space for Yin - for magic, mystery, spontaneity.  And my Yin also asks my Yang for ideas - and then feels into the idea - head and heart working together - they are in Conversation and Connection (and I look out for the Shadow of my Overthinker).  As I work 3 days a week, I have just been working on my Coaching Business on a part-time basis and yet as this is my lifework, I have a sense that I need to take ACTION on my Business every day - let my Yin show me the way.  Yesterday I bought a beautiful card - the words speak to me about my Business, about my life - 

"When you come to the edge of all that you know,

you must believe in one of two things:

there will be earth upon which to stand,

or you will be given wings."

When I designed my Business Logo, I had a sense that Yin and Yang would be of supreme importance in my Coaching work.  Yin and Yang is now HUGE for me in Coaching – I see the importance of having them both working together to bring about energy and light - and growth.

 

I remember meeting with the graphic designer to explain my Logo and my Yin and Yang were in their Power - I was speaking from the heart with Passion and also giving details and logic.  I explained that the:
- Yellow heart in the middle is the spark – the light within – it can be Soul purpose, it can be one's Uniqueness and Greatness, it can be one's dream, idea, insight, inspiration – for me it is my dream of bringing my Coaching Business to life

- Red around the heart represents the love between Yin and Yang – the Passion and force of them coming together – the love story between Yin and Yang
- White circle around Yin and Yang being a representation of the Hero's Journey

- White and Yellow glow and rays is the sun – energy, warmth, ENERGY, magic, BRINGING THE DREAM TO LIFE – and seeing it SHINING IN THE WORLD – And Shining because you love what you have brought forth into being.

I am SHINING now after being in Reflection of my Journey in the last 7 weeks.  I am Excited to work with Clients in helping them develop their own Strengths and Resources, helping them become more Self-Reliant and Confident and experience Self-Love.

Myers-Briggs Personality Profile was such a great starting point to find out about my Strengths and Preferences.  I believe it will be worthwhile to invite all of my Clients to complete an online survey as an opportunity to learn about themselves, so that they can bring their own Yin and Yang into Power and help them consciously design and achieve their own Goals.

After speaking with the Doctor yesterday and during my own Reflection, I am realising how Passionate I am about walking with people as they take an Inner Journey - perhaps their Goals are more Confidence, greater Self-Esteem, more Joy and Fulfilment in their lives, a greater sense of Purpose, a new way of being in the world.  I also Welcome all Clients and Trust that an External Goal, such as getting a new job, may also lead us to the underworld of exploring what is going on for a Client, offering the opportunity to explore how the Client can feel a greater sense of peace and happiness.  I love that the Coaching Process can help people develop their own Strengths and Resources, life tools that will always support them on their Journey - especially in helping them live their potential and also during times of change and transformation.

My Yin-Yang Journey has brought me Home to Self where I am in a place of Self-Love.  I now believe that anything is possible and I can make my dreams come true.  And I look forward to working with Clients to help them with their own Self-Exploration and Self-Discovery - helping them see their own Greatness and Uniqueness - a Journey of Love of Self and Love of Life.

I love this quote from 'Soulcraft' - I believe it speaks about the Power of Yin (Vision) and Yang (task):
"A Task without a Vision is just a job.
A Vision without a Task is just a dream.
A Vision with a Task can change the world."

I love that I have my Yin and Yang to help me with my Vision and Task.  I love that I have powerful images of my Yin and Yang that I carry with me and draw on in my mind's eye.

If I feel I am too much in my Goddess Yin, I will call on the image of my Yang male - and if I am too much in Yang, I will invite his Beloved Goddess to share the space.  My Commitment is to have them holding hands, a Union, a Fusion - and that's what I love about the Yin and Yang logo, even in Yin there is still Yang, and in Yang there is still a piece of Yin - they are never totally separated or without each other.  In writing this I get a sense of my Goddess in Power, which I believe has Yin and Yang qualities.

I read this quote yesterday and I really like it - 

"I am where I am because I believe in all possibilities"

This is a whole new world for me - I am Excited by all the possibilities. 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BqGTb4ZFAS8&NR=1&feature=fvwp

I Love Words

I Love Words. 

I Love to read Quotes or Words from a Book first thing in the morning - just taking a few minutes to pick a page of one of my Favourite Books by random (or so it seems).  I love 'Goddess' by Toni Carmine Salerno - LOVE the images and LOVE the words.  I choose a page - the words (and image) are perfect as always -

"Create
For it is in creation that you exist
In this world full of wonder 

Through love and hatred
Joy and sadness
Laughter and tears

The unknown awaits you
Step into the void
With courage and strength

Allow your inner light to unfold
Like a budding rose
Searching for the sun

Go where love leads you
Keep your pockets full of dreams
And allow them to be your guide."

I Love Words.  I Love these Words "The unknown awaits you   Step into the void   With courage and strength" - perfect for my day of going out into Community to build my Coaching Business.

I go outside to Exercise - and it feels great - I allow myself to enjoy Running for 10 minutes to the beach and then I enjoy Walking - it feels great to be alive.  I spend some time enjoying housework when I get Home, so that my Man and I can put our energy into other Priorities this weekend.

I love being in my Coaching room - I love setting up my room and getting ready for Clients.  I lay out my Angel Cards and pick two cards that speak to me 

- Astara - "You deserve the best!  Reach for the stars with your dreams and desires, and don't compromise" 

- Archangel Ariel - "Prosperity - Your material needs are provided as you follow your intuition and manifest your dreams into reality"

I enjoy a Meditation, I really love just sinking in my chair and enjoying the quiet, the peace.  I have a sense of me rolling down a hill and that I am like a ball of wool that becomes bigger and gathers momentum.   In my Meditation, I also get a sense of a mirror and that it is most important how I see myself - that when I look in the mirror I have Self-Love.

I have a sense that Self-Care is very important to me - and that I must look after myself.  I also see an image of me in Gunnamatta Bay - one of my favourite places - I am in the park and I am just relaxing, enjoying Nature.  And then other people come to the park and relax in Nature.  I have a sense that I should combine my love of Nature, Walking and Coaching - Inspiring Medicine Walks and then time for Reflection (WOW -  I LOVE this insight).

In my Meditation I ask - "What can I do to move my business forward?" - the Word TRUST comes to me.   My Meditation ends when I get a sense of the words "Do It Now", "Do It Now", "Do It Now".  I am Inspired by these Words.  So I ring a potential Client and I am Excited that he is interested and mid next week we are going to organise a time for next Friday.  With Confidence (and my Yin and Yang in Commitment to work together) I walk (with no fear) into two of the doctor's clinics in Cronulla and make appointments for next week.  I am so Passionate about helping people - THIS MATTERS TO ME - I am Delighted that I have times in their diary so that I can explain Coaching and that they can then refer people to me that may need Support and help to move forward in their life.

I also enjoy a trip to the library - wow - I had forgotten how great it is to visit a library.  I follow my Intuition and I am guided towards a book 'Now Is The Time' by Patrick Lindsay.  I read some great Quotes that really speak to me.

"Now Is The Time To...

Focus Your Energy

We are constantly faced with competing demands,

And easily distracted by the noise and the interruptions.

To be effective in our lives and work, we must focus.

We must decide on our priorities.

We must channel energy and attend to the task before us."

"Now Is The Time To...

Commit Yourself

Those who succeed set themselves apart by their commitment.

Most of us make an effort.

We prepare; we try; but then we hope.

If you really want to achieve something,

You must be prepared to stretch yourself.

You must distil your energy and focus all your efforts.

You must give of yourself."

"If you're not actively involved in getting what you want, you don't really want it."

"Now Is The Time To...

Show Your True Colours

If you believe passionately that something is right,

Fight for it with all your might.

Dig deep in your Soul and refuse to give ground.

Even when the odds seem overwhelming, keep fighting.

You'll be amazed how often persistence wins the day."

"Now Is The Time To...

Follow Your Heart

Never underestimate the power of your heart.

We are Passionate about someone, or something,

Few obstacles can defeat us,

Our hearts can inspire Greatness,

Sweep aside adversity,

Break new ground

And draw others along with us."

I Love Words.  I Love Books.  I am happy that I joined the library and borrowed two books that I was drawn to - 'Law of Attraction' and 'The Everything Self-Esteem Book' - books and information and Words that may help me in my work with Clients.  While I have studied so much and love what I have studied, I love that I can constantly read and learn Self-Development books that will help me on my own Journey and in my walk with my Clients.  While having lunch I flick through 'The Everything Self-Esteem Book' and there are three pieces of information / paragraphs/ Words that catch my Interest:

- "Research shows that people spend less than thirty hours over their entire lifetime thinking about and researching their career choices.  If you begin work at twenty years of age, work forty hours per week, and retire at sixty-five, you will have worked 93,600 hours in a job that may not have been your Calling."

- "Your Uniqueness - If you try to place a value (worth) on your life based on other people, you are denying your uniqueness, your rareness.  You are saying to yourself, 'It is of no importance to have qualities that belong exclusively to me.  You are saying to yourself, I am not a miracle.  I am not a marvel.  I have no specific purpose for being here.'  Think of the tragedy in those statements.  Think about your life at this very moment.  What is your miracle?"

- "Dr. Wright made the following statement: 'What you think about me is none of my business.' Let me give that to you again. 'What you think about me is none of my business.'  Profound.  When you think about Dr. Wright's statement, you realise just how brave that statement is and how much self-esteem one has to have to ever think it, much less say it out loud.  He went on to discuss the fact that the students present did not know him as a private citizen, as a son, a brother, a partner, an uncle, or a friend.  When you think about it, how many people know us in every capacity?  Dr. Wright's statement is prophetic.  He was right.  Others' opinions of you are none of your business, because they don't really know you."

WOW.  I Love Words - Words that Inspire.  I am so glad that I am a Life Coach.  I AM A LIFE COACH!!  I Love saying these Words.  Not from a position of Ego or Arrogance - instead from a position of loving what I do and being proud that I am making my dreams come true.

Written Words are wonderful - and I also love Words spoken from the heart.  Tonight I am so Grateful that a Family Friend came out in the rain on a Friday night to fix our hot water system - and I kept telling him how Grateful I am - he is a really nice man - and his act of kindness has definitely Spread The Yellow to me.  I am so Excited that I will be able to enjoy a hot bath tonight and read a book.  I love reading in the bath.  After reading so many Words from Self-Development books, I think tonight I will enjoy a chapter or two from a Love Story.  I was saying today that I would like to enjoy more Fiction books - while I have about 5 Non-Fiction Books on the go - I do love a good Story - just a chance to relax.

Time to relax...

... Or so I thought - after I had already Published this Post - I ran my bath, all set for a hot bath and to my surprise the lovely hot water that first comes out of the pipes, very quickly becomes cold - oh no, the hot water is gone again.  I boil water for a while and yet it does not boil fast enough to keep me warm.  And I realise that this is not very relaxing.  Just as I find myself getting disappointed, I find myself being Grateful that I have a Home, warm clothes, a heater and water - whereas I think of families living in Poverty who do not even have these basic needs being met.  I am so fortunate.

I am so Grateful and so fortunate and yet I still have a disappointment that my Friday night is not going so well - especially since my Man is locked away trying to fix his computer and now the hot water system.  I Love Words and yet right now we need some Silence and Distance - my Man is not very happy after working long hours all week.  And now he tells me to watch the DVD on my own.  And I am not very happy that he is not very happy and that we are spending the night apart, rather than relaxing together.  After my bath, I put out a fresh towel for my Man and the towel that I first pick up is the Yellow towel I bought for him for Christmas with the words "My Mr Wonderful" - of course (despite my disappointment) my Man is My Mr Wonderful ... 

I wish I could find the right Words to make my Man feel better - and yet I will just give him Space.  And  I am choosing right now to enjoy my night and enjoy a movie, relaxing on the couch...